Women are being very verbal. They have the ability to speak is very impressive. They also have the ability to remove vocabulary much more than men. That is why, women are often referred to as 'being chatty' or I have often referred to as 'verbal creatures'. There have been many studies that reveal the factors that cause the condition.
One of them, a study conducted by the University of Maryland School of Medicine, found that women are being very verbal and lots of talking. A study published by the Journal of Neuroscience that states, women's verbal ability was due to the level of a chemical compound called FOXP2 in their brains. The researchers tested a group of children aged 4 and 5 years, and found that the girls have a 30% protein language more than boys.
FOXP2 is a kind of "protein language", which plays an important role in the development of language skills. Women have more protein than men languages. On average, women speak 20,000 words a day, while men only issued 7,000 daily vocabulary.
Mike Bowers, one of the researchers explained, "Our main finding is that the FOXP2 protein is involved in vocalization. We can not say that this is the only reason, but it is one of the first possibilities when we can begin to explore why women tend to be more verbal than men. "
Precisely because so many women talk, then they have a need to be heard more than men. Just imagine, they have a 'natural condition' very verbal, want a lot of talk, want to express my feelings, then how is the condition of their souls if it has a husband who does not want to listen to all the talk? Husband to be closed, do not want a lot of talk, even tend to shy when asked to talk to linger by his wife. This situation will be excruciating wives.
Because the wife is very verbal creatures, then there needs to be heard to be met by the wife. The husband should give the opportunity freely to his wife to tell her anything, lamented anything, tell him anything. The husband must provide time and a comfortable atmosphere for her to speak, and must accommodate and respond wife talks wisely.
But often there is an attitude that is very disturbing husband and wife, so that they are uncomfortable to talk and chat with her husband. Among these are an easy attitude interrupt waffle husband and wife, the wife asked immediately silent and not noisy, or attitudes that are not friendly to the wife who was wanted to talk.
Here are 10 ban when the wife was busy chatting or talking to you:
When the wife was busy talking, do not interrupt the conversation. The atmosphere will be damaged or disturbed his soul if he'd said you always interrupted. The wife interrupted for example by directly commented, immediately responded, quickly guess, or quickly advised when he was not finished.
"I already know the ending. This is definitely a matter of debt, right? You debts again, right? "
"Surely you make trouble again with friends office. What else would you tell me? "
Listen wife talks to finish. Do not be easily interrupted, especially with lecturing at length, when he was not finished. Although you are indeed a speaker :)
Sometimes he quickly ignited emotions or anger or appear ego himself, when she began to talk or vent. Whatever the content of confidante, listen to me. It became part of the distribution that would make his wife feeling relieved. There are twenty thousand vocabulary that get kicked every day, if there were accommodating and listened, he gets stressed. So listen, capacity, understand and respond wisely. Do not be quick to anger or emotion just by hearing the wife curhatan by husband 'not very' or even 'not qualified'.
"I really Sebel. You were talking what the heck? Ga obviously really ".
"What you do not have the talk of better quality? I'm tired of hearing omonganmu ".
Let your wife talk to completion and finished material. It would be very comforting feeling. You do not need to be anxious and worried that you are not able to give a solution of the problem that he had to say. Often wives vent is to remove the burden, is not simply a matter of finding a solution. Then listen to it all until he had finished speaking. Never told him to be quiet when absorbed talk, let alone with the screaming. It will be very painful heart.
"Shut up !! Just be quiet. I need peace, you know? "
"Shut Up !!!! Already do not go on your waffle !! "
"Enough !! Do not talk anymore. I've had it !!! "
Do not cut and shut him up. It will not solve the problem, it will add to the list of new problems. Listen, let him speak freely.
As I have been told before, often wives vent is to remove the burden, is not simply a matter of finding a solution. 'Error' among many husbands are when they feel overwhelmed with wife vent for fear could not provide a resolution. Impact of feeling and load it, the husband and wife with a face to face chat tense and stiff. Faces that are not friendly, or even angry face.
Relax, do not strain. Rest assured storm definitely passed. If you hear a confidante, will make her feel comfortable. This will make you also will feel more comfortable to deal with.
When talking or chatting, would be very nice for the wife if you looked earnestly listen. One form of sincerity you hear the conversation is confronts her face and body. This gives a very strong message to the wife that you really want to listen to the conversation and not mencuekkannya. Do not ignore it.
If you talk to sitting together, then confronted the face and body to his wife. If you berbiocara while lying in bed try to take the opposite position, or at least equally facing up. Do not get chatting while back each other, or face to your wife but your back to him. It made him feel uncomfortable, feeling neglected, feeling ignored by you.
If you're chatting while lying or lying down, try to continue to connect and listen to the conversation wife. Do not let you stay asleep when his wife was still deep in conversation. When your conscious wife was asleep because you heard snoring, he will feel hurt because you do not care what he said. He felt like a conversation you consider trash or wind that does not need to be heard.
If you are already very tired and sleepy, ask your wife for your willingness to break, so dirtunda talks tomorrow or any other time. Do not just sleep away without telling his wife.
"Brother, I'm tired nih. Well ... I take a break in the conversation pause first well, spliced tomorrow morning. Ok? "
"I'm sorry I was so tired deck ya, brother shrimp sleepy. Brother used to sleep well. Tomorrow passed on what he said. Wassaalam ... "
One bad habit is engrossed unrequited messages via SMS, BBM, email, Line, WA or any other means of communication. Moreover, if left to call or receive calls. This will greatly interfere with the communication with the wife. Moreover, the husband who has very many groups WA, BBM group, group mailing lists or groups Line and so forth, must be very much notification of incoming messages throughout the conversation with his wife.
Your phone to silent, or even keep your gadgets from a conversation with his wife. Do not let technology interfere with the comfort of your communication with the wife. Just let the incoming message piles, then you can open and reply after finished talking with the wife. When there are incoming calls nor should you receive at the time, because you can later call back after finished talking with the wife.
Among other communication disorders is, the husband actually enjoys reading the newspaper or watching on television engrossed by the time his wife was talking and confide in him. Saperti husband's behavior is very disturbing wife feeling, feeling defeated by newspapers and television. He felt unappreciated, feeling unloved, was not accepted by the husband.
Put newspapers, magazines or books, and turn off the television. Sweet sit alone with his wife. Just relax and do not let your wife feel hurt for being defeated by newspapers and television. The wife is entitled to receive attention from you.
When in the middle of the house, of course there are plenty of 'interference' when you talk alone with his wife. Wife was busy talking, suddenly husband chatting child who was passing nearby, so sidetracked into talking with the child's attention. Though the wife feels unfinished conversation, but the husband had a chat with other people.
Or while chatting in a sudden there is a guest house, then you can invite guests to sit and wait in the living room first. After the guests sat down to wait, to tell his wife that there is a waiting middle so that it will shorten or speed up the conversation. Do not go straight to the guests and invite guests to linger chatting, while you do not stand for long chat with the wife.
"The pain tu here," said the wife, when he was busy vent suddenly left her husband went away. The husband was bored talking to his wife, and he did 'walk-out' with a walk out of the house. Act like this is very hurt his wife. He was really annoyed and agitated with the attitude husband who does not care about her feelings.
Maybe you feel strange or funny, but really there happens. That the wife was busy telling stories or chatting husband suddenly went away without telling his wife. When later asked why the husband suddenly went away without express words to his wife who was busy talking, the husband replied, "I'm Tired of listening omonganmu. You if you talk tuh really old, making me tired ".
If want to go or the streets, it's after you finish talking to your wife. Do not direct go away menginggalkan wife, when he was talking seriously to you.
Thus ten ban while talking with the wife. Listen carefully to all the talk the wife. Let him talk freely about anything, do you forbid he spoke. With vent and speak freely, the wife will feel relieved. If she was relieved, she will serve her husband optimal. He was loved by her husband. Thus the wife will get better in serving and loyal to her husband.
