What women desired

Through his book The Evolution of Desire, psychologist David M. Buss, Ph.D., of the University of Texas, USA, offers the answer is quite challenging to prove.

In a study of 10,000 women from 37 different cultural backgrounds, he asked, what they want from each other? The most common answer is:

1. Money and welfare
2. Social status and influence (power)
3. A person who is older (average 3.5 years older than him)
4. Ambition
5. Intelligence and reliable
6. Love and commitment

The top five of these answers give women a sense of security that is needed in order to meet the biological demands to manage the family, including raising a child (even if she does not have children, according to Buss, desires stored in the liver is still guiding women in choosing). Men older, more intelligent, ambitious to achieve higher social status can give assurance evolutionary in fruitful: food, housing, education, and better health care.

While love and commitment to make all of the above becomes more enjoyable and meaningful.
An understanding of the woman's deepest agenda will help him understand why most women seek to embrace the security of a long-term relationship. So, do not rush offered sex.

Affection Eternal

According to the general dictionary sense of love is really like (to) or (taste) affection (to), or (taste) very love or very interested in her. While the word love means affection or love for or pity, thus meaning of love and almost simultaneously, thus strengthening the sense of the word love love. Therefore love can be defined as a feeling of love (affection) to someone who is accompanied by putting compassion.
The highest level of love is the love of God, the Prophet, and jihad in the path of Allah. Love secondary level is love to parents, children, siblings, husband / wife and relatives. Love the lowest level is the love that prefer the love of family, relatives, possessions, and shelter.
On the first point of love for God, love of god why it includes the highest levels? Because God is all-everything, all the rest of the world is in the heavens and the earth is his creation a lot of gods creatures who live and die in this world, and man is one of them, we as human beings are the most fortunate creature created by God. Because not only given the passions alone but in the form of the brain that can think. So, let us not love something exceeded our love to God, because Allah is the KING OF KINGS.
Both love the middle level is the love of parents, parents are Mom and Dad. Mother is a woman who deserves respect, love and we care. Because of the sacrifice of a mother is not easy, nine months a child is in the womb, and be born of her womb at the time of delivery that is the struggle of a mother who desperately need our respect, that is where the sacrifice of life and death struggle for the birth of her baby that he loved so much.
but we also must not forget the figure of a father, a mother's sacrifice reversed in the process of giving birth to a little baby there is a father who always accompany his wife, giving out encouragement to the wife in childbirth. The father is just as important as the mother because the father is the backbone of the family even though the father did not give birth to a child but could not deny a father figure greatly affect everything. So thank those of us who still have parents complete. Which always gave us a very abundant affection without expecting in return, for the love of parents to their children is a pure love for love and affection.
Third Iyalah love of our possessions, love is the lowest level. Love the property is actually not a negative thing while not lead kehal- things closer to musrikan. Do we go back in time jahilliyah that period of ignorance, because many who mean something in mind that is not clear, oblivious to the existence of the creator and sometimes it does not make sense to be reasonable. But that does not mean we should not love our possessions, we may be in love with our possessions but still within limits. just taking good care goods that we like, but do not make worship and other tools.
Thus it can be concluded once we loved all that was created by the god of this earth, but we have to remember there is no eternal love except our love to God, because God is eternal.

Men are more dear family of the woman

Touch the female figure is absolutely necessary in a family. He shaped the personality of the child and the care of the household. But lately, more and more flourishing career woman.
Either because of the demands of the economy and the need for existence, women no longer want to just sit at home. For them, the office is a 'nest' latest.
One study even showed a surprising fact. In fact, more men who put family as a priority, rather than women. The study was conducted on more than a thousand professional workers who are members of the LinkedIn network.
A total of 512 women and 511 men were asked his views about the work, success, and balance. As a result, 86 percent of men begin their families earlier than 73 percent of women.
Married, have children, and successful careers of the men considered as an indicator of their success in life. As many as 79 percent of men think about it. Being women, only 66 percent of his craving.
Men are also more describe themselves as a family-oriented. While women express themselves with words such as: loyal, collaborative, and detail-oriented.
For Jacky Carter, spokeswoman for LinkedIn, the results were so shocking. "Apparently he did not see money as the source of everything. They actually put more attention on the family, "he said, as reported by the Daily Mail website.
However, when viewed as a whole, the real difference in views about the family between men and women was striking. As many as 52 percent of men put the family as a priority. Meanwhile, the woman who did the same thing just 48 percent.

Meaning Unfortunately the truth

Perhaps many do not understand what love is and what it might sayang.Dan me one of his. Many people assume that the affection and love it same.However fact different.
Some say that love is a desire to have the value of sincerity and affection of a feeling. But when I try to summarize what I feel from what I experienced Love is a feeling of a person against another person who is wanted binding and anything that is based in love just feels while even only lasts a maximum of one year. People who feel the love will give what is requested by another person or partner, and usually only based on lust. Unfortunately is the feeling a person against another person who tends to be given without thinking will get a reply and this feeling will continue to exist even will develop over time, each reflection will reinforce that feeling and affection will refresh it. People who feel affection will provide everything needed another person or partner without ever being asked.
When examined, indeed affection seem more complex than the feeling of love, but actually feeling of affection will be more complicated even harder to understand than love as more people try to understand the more dizzy dear man made. Many people misinterpret the affection that it should have. Yet who tend to want as it is the feeling of love. Indeed affection should not grow just like that, there is the growing of love that later on realize that they should not have.
If a person has to feel compassion for anyone else, he would not insist on maintaining relationships with others if it is felt it is not the best for the person she loves. Although sore, because affection may not be possible. Hatred can be confiscated because of the feeling that, feel like to have vanished with over time, leaving only a sense unwilling to give the best. This might sound like a hoax, but if people can really understand the meaning of affection it personally then he would be able to tolerate. Perhaps what I have written is not in accordance with what many people feel, but certainly of this writing, I have felt it.

I say thank you to someone who can inspire me
and can teach me about one of the meaning of life.

LOVE IN ISLAM

"O mankind, indeed We have made you from a male and a female, and have made you nations and tribes so as to know each other. Surely the noblest of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous. Indeed, Allah is Knower, Aware. "(Surat al-Hujuraat [49]: 13).

Islamic Doctrine of affection has been long in kumandangkannya perfectly and beautifully. However, most of the people do not realize what the real meaning of love itself, so it can be stopped and deviate from the rules that have been commanded by Allah and the sayings of His Messenger. As the poem says, "mawaddatuhu taduumu likulli haulin, wa it kullun mawaddatuhu taduumu", affection (human) always eternal for all things scary, and if everyone's affection is always eternal. (Jawaahirul Balaaghah: 407). This is because it is not intended merely because God does not serve as a charitable fields even just to gain and worldly pleasures saja.Makna affection is not endless, while compassion is a nature that must be realized for others throughout life in this world there is, of course, in the corridors of Islam. This means that Islam does not recognize the time, distance, and the place will be a good affection to friends, relatives, and his own family.

Prophet. said, "Man laa laa yarhaminnaasa yarhamhullaah" Whoever does not love a human, God will not love her. (Transmitted by Turmudzi). In the tradition of love of a Muslim is not against the Muslim Ladies only, but to all mankind. Prophet. said, "Certainly you are not a believer before you love." O Messenger of Allah, "All of our loving," they replied. Prophet said, "Love does not always limited to the affection of one of you to his friend (a believer), but are general (for all mankind)." (Reported by Ath-Thabrani). In fact, not only to humans only high Islamic teachings have been taught how to love of animals and plants are to be realized. Abu Bakr Siddiq r.a. never advised the forces of Osama bin Zaid, "Do not kill women, the elderly, and small children. Nor should you neuter palm trees, and you do not cut the trees that bear fruit. If you come across people who are helpless, let them, do not you bother. "A counsel even in a state of war, Islam still exudes affection for humans, animals, and plants. Another interesting a story when Amr bin Ash conquer the city of Egypt, when it came out a dove on top of his tent.

Seeing this incident, then Amr bin Ash makes a cage for the dove above his tent. When he refused to leave his camp, bird and the cage is still there. He did not want to bother him and let it live with the dove cage that he has made. So the city was dubbed as the city fasthath (tent).

It is clear that Islam upholds will love. We need to imitate the example of the Prophet. and his companions were really realize the meaning of love without limits, of course, to achieve the pleasure of Allah alone are not to seek pleasure. So it is fitting that Islam as a religion said rahmatan lil 'alamiin. The nature of love is including a noble character who loved God. Instead God hates low morals. Among the people who do not have a sense of compassion affection. Confirmed hadith of the Prophet., Laa tunza'ur rahmatu illaa syaqiyyin min. Affection is not removed but only from those who hurt.
(Transmitted by Ibn. Hibban).

What is meant by the wretched are those who do not have a sense of compassion in his heart either to himself or others. This is where we need bermuhasabah, engage in meditation, whether it is correct themselves through life. How do we love and care for God's creation as a noble character. "Verily Allah the Merciful, He loves nature generous, and He loves noble character and low morals hate." (Reported by Ibn Abbas Na'im).

Love to God

Among the many human beings who love and love of God, but more who love the world. Loving God is obligatory for Muslims and Moslem are not just dikata only. And if we truly love God in sincerity, then the process of "affection" for his creatures to be formed in our hearts. In addition, our identity as a Muslim would seem more robust and able to live a law-sharia pleasing and blessed by Allah SWT. Love to God is the main thing, as a way to obtain the benefit of the world and the hereafter to carry out his orders, away from His prohibitions. Love to God and be of exceeding love of all that is manifest that besides Allah. Love God is to love His Messenger, which follow all instructions Apostle with the fullest. Word of Allah, "Say (O Muhammad), 'If you (really) love Allah, then follow me, Allah will love you and forgive you your sins.' Allah is Forgiving, Merciful." (Surah Ali Imran [3] : 31). Know, the afterlife is a better life and eternal. And Allah knows best bishshawab.